Make Your Ex Chase You: Two Simple Psychological Tricks

If you want to get your ex to chase you then what I’m about to tell you in this article will be incredibly important but must be used with caution. This is based on human psychological programming that has been a part of us since the beginning of mankind. These tricks will even work if they are dating someone else.

Here Is The First Simple Trick To Get Your Ex To Chase You:

People want what they can’t have.

There are many reasons why this is true. It allows us as people to strive for things that are better for ourselves. It’s because of this simple concept that we as humans have so many things right now. It’s even why you’re reading this article right now.

The problem with this concept that it doesn’t show the entire big picture and by itself isn’t enough to get your ex to chase you. Although, knowing this will help lead to your success.

I’m sure you can think of plenty of things you can’t have and that you don’t want. This is especially true when it comes to specific people. Ever been turned down by a person you didn’t like that much to begin with? Did it make you want to chase them more or did you just laugh it off? The desire to chase someone is much more complex than “people want what they can’t have”.

Of course it’s normal that once you have something you will start to want it less. Remember when you were a kid and there was that toy you REALLY wanted? But then once you had it you only played with it for a day or two?

Now The Second Trick:

People want what they value.

After you got bored with the toy and when then someone took it away from you: would you still want it? Not completely! If that toy was actually a lot of fun you wouldn’t have got bored with it. You would have VALUED the toy. Then if you valued the toy and it was taken away you would have been VERY UPSET that it was taken away. This is the difference between you and your ex right now. You valued them but they didn’t value you. That’s why they pushed you away and you were upset about it.

But DON’T WORRY! We can fix it.

These things were caused partly because you made some avoidable mistakes. 

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Why Do People Value Things?

This is because they’re hard to get. People chase things that are hard to get. In today’s society look at things such as gold. Gold isn’t valuable in a practical sense. It’s just pretty and people want it and there isn’t that much of it so it becomes valuable. If you could just find gold like they were stones on the ground it would have no value. Since you cannot find gold everywhere this creates SCARCITY. Also if no one else wanted gold it would have no value. Since it is hard to find and other people want it all of a sudden it now has value. Since other people want it too this creates DESIREABILITY. These TWO elements create VALUE. This is why people ‘chase’ gold! It can also be applied to get your love to chase you!


If you were one of those people who begged or pleaded with your ex or if you were one of those people who cried a lot in front of them then they think you are too available. They have taken you for granted and thinks that they can get you back at any time. Right now they are OK with losing you because they don’t VALUE you.

It’s like you’re that toy right now that you got as a little kid and got bored with.

So the trick is to make them THINK you don’t want them anymore and you’re moving on. 

This has some benefits:

  1. Your ex won’t understand why you don’t want them anymore.
  2. Your ex will be surprised that you moved on so fast and it will make them question if they made a mistake.
  3. Your ex might wonder if you’re happy seeing someone else.

This will cause your ex to CHASE you.

How Do Make Your Ex Think You Don’t Want Them Anymore?

One good way to go about this is the no-contact rule. No Contact creates scarcity as well as other positive benefits. This is part of the reason why people do The No-Contact rule.

This can be created by being more busy. It doesn’t mean you have to be manipulative. You can create scarcity by making yourself more busy by doing more hobbies. This will actually make the scarcity genuine. I highly recommend this approach over the next one…

Another way to do this is to be a REALLY good actor. You can try ignoring them and lying to them but honestly, it’s not that smart to do. Eventually you’ll get caught or they’ll realize you’re not real. If you lose their trust then you will have a hard time apologizing to them.

So Then How Do You Become More Desirable?

This is not so simple. You have to figure out lots of things about your particular situation. I suggest you first do the no-contact rule and then you educate yourself completely about the topic. After you’ve found the knowledge out there you will understand how to do this properly. You need to come up with a plan. You need to know what to do to get your ex back.

The big picture is very specific to you and without lots of reflection and understanding you will have a very hard time to get to the root of the problem.

That’s why you need to educate yourself on exactly what you need to do to get your ex back.

That’s why you need a plan. I have written a plan for you so you know exactly what to do. Sign up below to have the plan sent to your inbox immediately.

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